LET THEM

Welcome to The House Blend—a casual, honest, and vulnerable space where I’ll be sharing the ins and outs of my real estate business, client wins, personal struggles, and everything in between.

I have to be honest—I’m very curious to see how this goes. I’m hopeful that this space will be a positive one, where I can be fully honest and share parts of my life as if I were speaking to a dear friend over a cup of coffee.

This past month, I started implementing the “Let Them” theory by Mel Robbins. This isn’t a new concept by any means, but it has taken the social media community by storm and is impacting people in very different ways. For the past few years, I’ve had the mindset that if people show you who they are, believe them. To me, the “Let Them” theory feels similar—but for some reason, actually implementing it has been both a challenging and a healing process.

2025 has been my year of growth. In January, I prioritized my physical health by walking more, eating whole foods, and exploring new types of workouts. In February, I decided to tackle my reliance on other people’s input and opinions. I’m a people pleaser through and through, and I know I let others’ opinions weigh too heavily on my actions. So when I first heard about Mel Robbins’ Let Them theory, I knew it would be a good challenge for me.

It’s easy for me to reflect on a situation or a person and think, I should let them. The hard part is actually walking away from whatever I’m “letting them” say or do without dwelling on it.

Here are a few ways I’m “letting them” in my business:

• If they don’t take my job seriously, LET THEM. Let them think all I do is show pretty houses and grab coffee. They don’t see the hours spent writing and reviewing contracts, the tears I shed when I empathize with a client’s disappointment, the hundred-and-one homes I tour before a family finds the one, or the stress of guiding people through one of the biggest financial milestones of their lives.
• If they think my way won’t work, LET THEM. My value and expertise are shown through my results and the experiences I create for my clients—not through other people’s opinions about my approach.
• If they think my methods aren’t traditional enough, LET THEM. I refuse to cold call and door knock. I refuse to start relationships with clients on an awkward or abrasive note.
• If they choose to work with someone else, LET THEM. This one is the hardest. I take it personally, especially when a friend or someone close to me chooses another agent. But my reminder to myself is this: focus on the people who DO choose me. The relationships I build, the impact I have on their journey—that’s where my energy belongs.

I hope that this year, you’re able to let the people in your life be who they are, and I hope you embrace the best version of yourself—unapologetically. I’m working toward that too.

Here’s to finding joy in the little things—like a great cup of coffee.

xoxo,

Lil